Thanks to the ubiquitousness of the internet, pornography can easily slide its way into any household. Sex researcher Alvin Cooper, PhD, referred to this as the “triple-A engine” effect: the accessibility, affordability, and anonymity that the internet provides makes it easier than ever to discover erotic material.
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Pornography addiction has often been labeled a “man’s problem,” with a lot of blame being placed on the media and entertainment industry for producing hyper-sexualized movies, magazine covers, and of course the pornography industry which creates skewed perceptions of intimacy and body image.
While men certainly do suffer from and are susceptible to pornography addictions influenced by the entertainment industry, women are not excluded from its influence. Porn addiction can harm both men and women indiscriminately, although often in different ways.
The 2016 release of 50 Shades of Grey and the upcoming release of its sequel, 50 Shades Darker, in February, 2017, has shed light on the susceptibility of women to pornography addiction not only by the success of the movies, but by the plot that was first printed in book form and entranced readers enough to lead to the production of the movies.
Keep your family’s devices free from the pollution that is porn. By installing filters on your computer and mobile devices, pornographic websites won’t be able to make an accidental (or intentional) appearance.
Read our overview of the best pornography blockers available and then take the time to install one on each of your personal and family devices. By shielding yourself, your spouse, and your children from unwanted images and videos, you can confidently browse the web on all your favorite devices.
Filters for Family Computers
Not only is blocking porn healthy for people, it’s healthy for your computer as well. It’s very common for adult websites to spread dangerous malware which infects, damages, and disables your computer. Because of this, there are built-in safety features already in your browser. You just need to activate it.
“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.” – Rick Warren
First you need to know what a slip is. The most successful recovering addicts are those who, in the very beginning of their recovery process, establish their bottom lines. Your bottom line is what defines sobriety for you. In other words, you must draw the line on the behaviors that you will no longer participate in, and thus, all recovering addicts do not share a common bottom line. To help stay in recovery and maintain accountability in your marriage, you should report a slip to your partner face-to-face within 24 hours.
Breaking porn addiction is not an easy process. Various emotions come up and old habits are hard to let go of. No matter how hard it may seem, it is possible to overcome and heal from your addiction.
As with stopping any addiction, you’ll need to take time and establish new habits. People can get pulled deeper into their addictions due to boredom, anger, loneliness, depression,and other various emotions. The key is to find other ways to deal with your triggers, and develop new routines, or habits, to support you in your healing.
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” — JK Rowling
No one goes into marriage with the idea of hurting the other person; however, sometimes circumstances out of our control arise. Pornography and sexual addiction is a serious issue that hurts everyone involved.
As you begin to deal with your spouse’s addiction, you may find yourself asking, what do I do now?
To help you answer those questions, here are 11 important relationship tips to remember as you move forward in your own healing.
Have you ever wondered what causes people to struggle with addiction when others seem less affected? We can’t always know who will be more affected by those addictive substances (drugs, alcohol, porn, etc.), but what we do know is that recovery is possible. Though for many who struggle with addiction, the path of recovery is a lifelong choice each day to abstain from the substance.
Because of that, when it comes to overcoming your porn addiction, having the tools and resources around you is important to your success. If you’re ready to break your porn addiction, the first step in the process is to come out of hiding. Once you admit and acknowledge you have a problem, you can get started in your recovery.
To help get you started on your path to recovery, here are 6 helpful tips to begin your healing:
A New Year is here and, with the fresh start, many people have set their personal goals and resolutions for the year. We all have areas in our lives we’d like to improve, things we’d like to accomplish, and a bucket list of places to see. But what about your relationship with your spouse?
We all have hectic lives and finding time to reconnect with your spouse may not always be on your mind. This year, take some time to set goals to reconnect and improve your relationship with your spouse. Through setting goals with your spouse, you not only hold each other accountable for reaching your relationship goals, but can rekindle the romance, learn new things about each other, and enjoy a happier life together.
To help get you started, here are 6 relationship goals to start with your spouse in the New Year:
We want to keep our children safe and do everything in our power to make sure they feel safe and secure. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things can come in a marriage that can tear a family apart and leave children feeling scared and vulnerable.
Relationships go through their ups and downs. Even the best marriages can have some bumpy roads, but when there are children involved, it is important they know this is not their fault and are loved by both parents. Help your kids better cope with the situation by sticking to their routine, providing stability, and being there to answer their questions.
If you are going through a difficult time in your marriage, providing children with structure, routines, and stability is key to helping them feel a little more in control of what is going on. Children feel more secure when they know what to expect and sticking to their daily routines gives them that. While sticking to routine, maintain the rules, rewards, and discipline too. In some cases, when dealing with hard times, it is easy to spoil children and allow them to break rules. This doesn’t help anyone in the end.
When talking with your children about the situation, the first thing to remember is they do not need to know the whole situation. Here are 5 things to remember when talking with your children:
Challenges can arise in a marriage and to discover a spouse’s pornography and sexual addiction can have a devastating effect on a relationship. According to Covenant Eyes, 56% of divorce cases involved one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.
If you suspect your spouse is addicted to pornography, how do you ask the difficult questions? Recognize the warning signs? There is no simple answer. However, we’ve created a quiz to help ask the difficult questions when looking at the potential problem areas in a relationship.
When taking the quiz, please remember this should NOT be taken as a sign of proof that your spouse is addicted to pornography, but rather a tool to be used to evaluate your relationship and reconnect with your spouse.
Pornography and sexual addiction hurts everyone. Lifestar Therapy is committed to helping those suffering from addiction, and their spouses, to reclaim their lives and create healthier, stronger relationships. Download our free ebook, The First Step: Taking the First Step Toward Recovery, to learn more about the healing process.