How To Unplug: 10 Ways To Live a Happier Life

Cell phones, laptops, tablets, TVs, email, Facebook, Netflix…the list of ways you can spend your time plugged into technology goes on and on. They can be overwhelming, and slowly but surely they can take control of your life. Isn’t it about time we were in charge (no pun intended) of our own lives, and let go of our dependence on technology? Isn’t it time we learned how to be happy with ourselves?

If you’re wondering how to reduce tension in your life and be happy again, try living a more unplugged life. Taking time to unplug can help decrease stress, improve relationships, and give you an overall increase in freedom. There’s a big world out there just waiting to be explored, right? So how do you start? Where do you go and what do you do?

Here are 10 ways to take a break from technology and plug yourself back into a fuller, happier life.

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What is a Porn Addiction & How To Quit Porn [Once & For All]

Porn addiction is not a myth. This is  a real problem, suffered by real people. Porn addiction causes untold damage in the lives of the addict, and those who love them. Addiction can result in the loss of jobs, the end of a marriage, or worse. And overcoming pornography addiction, in most cases, feels impossible for the addict. Most live a shameful double life, with little hope of recovery. If this describes you, we understand, and we’re here to help.

At Lifestar Therapy, we believe pornography addiction can be overcome—that addicts can rebuild their self-esteem, their relationships, and their lives. The recovery process is not easy, but we have over 20 years of experience helping people heal and recover from the damage done by porn addictions. Success in recovery first requires recognizing the problem, and admitting that you need help to overcome it.

What is a Porn Addiction?

A porn addiction, like any addiction, is a dysfunction in the reward center of the brain. In an addiction, the brain is tricked into releasing unhealthy levels of dopamine in response to a stimulus. That stimulus can be a substance (like cocaine or alcohol), or a behavior (like gambling). The brain learns to expect these heightened levels of dopamine from the stimulus, and takes steps to achieve it again.

Over time—sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly—that reward loop is reinforced, and conscious choice is overridden until the addict is effectively incapable of resisting the urge to repeat the activity. By this point, they have likely realized they have a problem, but repeated attempts to break the cycle prove fruitless.

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My Spouse is a Recovering Sex Addict; How Do I Help?

Sex and pornography addictions can be catastrophic in the lives of the addict, and the lives of their loved ones. The road to recovery is long and difficult, and spouses and partners may be wondering what they can do to speed their companions along the path. While it’s true that no one can solve the problem for the addict, some courses of action will help assist them, and make their journey easier, facilitating healing for all involved.

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Blurring the Line Between Fantasy & Reality: How Virtual Reality is Making Porn More Dangerous

 

 

Like other aspects of the entertainment industry, porn has made the jump to VR. And like other VR experiences, VR porn is more immersive than its two-dimensional counterpart. It allows the viewer to feel like more of an active participant, making the experience feel more real.

When dealing with something like pornography that already blurs the line between fantasy and reality, amplifying that effect can be cause for concern. That was the motivation behind a new study done by Newcastle University, which looked into the effects virtual reality has on pornographic experiences. Their findings were not reassuring.

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“Parental Guidance is Advised”: The Shift Toward an R-Rated Culture

American culture has always been a battle between the wholesome and the obscene. For much of the country’s history, however, it has been easy to segregate the obscene and maintain safe spaces for ourselves and our families. Where once our prime time TV was furnished with shows like The Andy Griffith Show, and our theaters frequented by actors of class like Jimmy Stewart and Gregory Peck, our culture has, over the years, come to accept less family-friendly entertainment.

Our culture has had a steady shift towards accepting increased levels of explicit content in media, and it’s having an impact on how we behave. We need to be aware of the cultural shift if we are going to properly protect ourselves and our loved ones. To that end, we’ve put together a few statistics about how things have changed over the years.

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50 Shades of Grey: How Porn Addiction Can Affect Both Men & Women

 

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Pornography addiction has often been labeled a “man’s problem,” with a lot of blame being placed on the media and entertainment industry for producing hyper-sexualized movies, magazine covers, and of course the pornography industry which creates skewed perceptions of intimacy and body image.

While men certainly do suffer from and are susceptible to pornography addictions influenced by the entertainment industry, women are not excluded from its influence. Porn addiction can harm both men and women indiscriminately, although often in different ways.

The 2016 release of 50 Shades of Grey and the upcoming release of its sequel, 50 Shades Darker, in February, 2017, has shed light on the susceptibility of women to pornography addiction not only by the success of the movies, but by the plot that was first printed in book form and entranced readers enough to lead to the production of the movies.

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Porn Blocking Software: How to Choose the Right One for You

computer-1179912_640Keep your family’s devices free from the pollution that is porn. By installing filters on your computer and mobile devices, pornographic websites won’t be able to make an accidental (or intentional) appearance.

Read our overview of the best pornography blockers available and then take the time to install one on each of your personal and family devices. By shielding yourself, your spouse, and your children from unwanted images and videos, you can confidently browse the web on all your favorite devices.

Filters for Family Computers

Not only is blocking porn healthy for people, it’s healthy for your computer as well. It’s very common for adult websites to spread dangerous malware which infects, damages, and disables your computer. Because of this, there are built-in safety features already in your browser. You just need to activate it.

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How to Disclose a Slip Up to Your Partner During Recovery

“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of itcouple-1343952_1280.” – Rick Warren

First you need to know what a slip is. The most successful recovering addicts are those who, in the very beginning of their recovery process, establish their bottom lines. Your bottom line is what defines sobriety for you. In other words, you must draw the line on the behaviors that you will no longer participate in, and thus, all recovering addicts do not share a common bottom line. To help stay in recovery and maintain accountability in your marriage, you should report a slip to your partner face-to-face within 24 hours.

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